Common features among people who cheat
There are many reasons why people cheat or may cheat on their partners even in the best of situations. Some are uniquely different as to why the person(s) cheat. Interesting, research shows that there are some common features to watch out for in partners who cheat. Some of these features may not be seen in the cheater but in other related factors like friends, family background, interest and attention for certain things or people. See below:
1) Their Friends Cheat
If your friends get divorced, you are more likely to get divorced. If your friends earn more, you’re more likely to earn more. So it should be of little surprise to learn that social networks also affect infidelity. According to M. Gary Newman, psychotherapist, rabbi, and author of The Truth About Cheating, 77 percent of cheating men also have cheating friends. Now, that doesn’t mean 77 percent of men with cheating friends cheat, of course. But if your partner isn’t bothered by his friend’s cheating, it could be a red flag.
2) They Need An Ego Boost
A driver of cheating for both men and women is insecurity about one’s own attractiveness levels. People who have lost their mojo are more likely to cheat because they crave reinforcement, and getting it from just one person isn’t cutting it.
“If the partner gets to a place in the relationship whereby they are unable to fulfill that void any longer, the cheating individual continues to stay in the relationship (because they fear being alone) but gets the validation that is now missing from an extramarital affair,” Kelly Armatage, a cognitive behavioral therapist, relationship coach, and speaker, told Fox News.
3) They’re Lost In The Relationship
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in being in a relationship that you somehow lose your sense of self along the way. When someone feels like they don’t know who they are anymore, cheating can be the way they look to escape.
Talking to INSIDER, psychotherapy counselor Claire McRitchie said that said infidelity could be used for vengeance. She explained that, in such a scenario, anger is often suppressed and then released in the act of cheating. Why? Because it offers the aggrieved party a feeling of power and control. “The knowledge that the other person is being punished without realizing is for some people a cruel and unusual way of punishing them—sometimes for perceived slights rather than real ones,” she said.
5) They Have Fear Of Commitment
According to psychotherapist Charlotte Howard, some people are “scared of intimacy in a way that allows sexual desire to only be felt outside of a deep partnership, because there is too much closeness with a partner to feel safe merging through sxx.” To avoid being vulnerable, they place barriers with the person by never fully committing to them.
In conclusion, if you perceive that your partner may be cheating on you, before calling it quit, endeavour to talk to them. First garner up some courage to face the monster. This is the most difficult option has always proven to be the most effective. However, you need to be mentally, emotionally and psychologically prepared to do it.
When you think you have summoned enough courage to face them, invite them out to a public place where you can have some heart-to-heart conversations and not be physically harassed. This is important because most cheaters are defensive.
In the case of a man cheater, he may become aggressive and choose to attack the partner. If he can cheat, then he can be aggressive. Thus, he can attack you.